Why Negative Thought Patterns impact anyone
One way you can improve your mental perception of the world, is learning how to releasing negative thought patterns from your thought process. A lot of times when someone starts to think a thought that they don’t like, they try to wrestle it to the ground, thinking that it will go away. Well, if you have any experience with your thought process, you know that they do not work that way. The more you try to wrestle them to the ground, the more those negative thought patterns are going to retaliate and come back harder. That’s just how your thoughts work. For example, if you have a thought about something that is completely opposite of what you want, you are going to want to get rid of that thought process as soon as possible.
This technique will work for all thoughts, but works extremely well for something that you are passionately against. Here is an example of a negative thought pattern. Lets say a husband can’t stop thinking that his wife is cheating on him, and the thought is constantly going through his mind. “My wife is cheating on me, and there is nothing I can do about it”. Maybe he has had some evidence to make him think that, but at the same time the thought is killing him! Mostly because he is identifying with it. Here is the process…..
1 You are thinking the thought you do not want to think
2 You come to the realization that you are thinking this bogus thought over and over
3 NEGATIVE THOUGHT PATTERNS release- Say to yourself “I allow this thought to be thought by me over and over if it wants to”. “I completely allow this thought”.
And that’s it. It seems simple and that’s because it is. Once you understand how the mind works, then you are more the master over your thoughts rather than them controlling you. The term “what you push against just gets bigger” applies here. With this technique you are saying, “Okay, you win, keep on coming bogus thought”. And essentially the thought loses it’s power because it dissolves in your non resistance to it. Really, our thought process is just like clouds passing by, and only have meaning when we actually identify with them.
The reason I am writing a post about something so simple is, I was having a conversation with someone last night, and they were explaining something similar to this. They work all day doing what they love, but then they get home and start having guilty thoughts about making money off of what they love. It’s strange that different people have different hangups. Something that could hang myself up, is TOTALLY different from someone else. But it made me think, this technique is perfect for that type of scenario. And it works.
Just that simple technique does three things well.
Releases resistance connected to that thought process.
Takes absolutely no effort, but just a change in your stance towards that thought. Instead of wrestling it to the ground.
Frees up your energy so you can focus on things that you want.
Why not just think a positive thought to counteract the negative thought?
This is a very good question. And you could go about it this way. But for me personally, this method doesn’t work that well for a couple reasons. Basically, when you start trying to force the positive thought to take over the negative thought, you are essentially still trying to wrestle the negative thought patterns to the ground. Before I knew how my mind worked, I did this all the time. I thought that I would be able to just think positively about everything, and the negative thoughts were gone forever! I look at it like this. The easiest next step is just allowing. It’s to big of a jump to go from a negative thought straight to the positive thought. So take the next step in the thought process which is welcoming the negative thought. Then if you want to start thinking positively about the subject, you can move closer after this first step in the thought process.
I use this negative thought patterns release technique if this scenario ever happens, all the time. It’s become a habit if I come across a situation where it can be implemented. And it happens to everyone. Release the need to get rid of the thought, and rather welcome it. And then the thought disappears. There are a million ways to release resistance to a negative thought pattern and this is just one. But in my experience, I find it to be really valuable. It not only reminds me that it is just a “thought”, and that I have a choice of allowing this negative thought pattern to control me, or I can master it by welcoming and watching it.
If you want some other ways you can work with your thought process and change it in a way you would like, check out my other articles related to this.