Let me paint a picture of what being a realistic person is. A realistic person is a person that thinks that they can’t do anything that is out of their current skill set. They would love to live in their current comfort zone and never really try anything new, because they might fail. A realistic person is a person that allows society to dictate who they are and settles for what they think is “normal” and expected of them. They would like to be respectable and fit in with the crowd. A realistic person is someone who looks at others who are living a extra ordinary life in awe and gets a slight jolt of inspiration to go after what they want. But then lets their “realistic” beliefs of what they deserve damage their progress towards that goal once again. Is this your current situation? I hope not. I hope you are as unrealistic as possible. Unrealistic in what you think you can accomplish. Unrealistic in the life you think you deserve. In fact, I hope you are unrealistic like you are the first person on this planet, and you don’t know what is normal. Knowing when to be realistic and when to be unrealistic in certain aspects of your life can be very integral to your life.
Are your goals realistic?
When it comes to being realistic with your goals, I hope your answer is that you are NOT being realistic. Goals are not supposed to be realistic. If I were to create a goal that was realistic, it is based off of my perception right now of what I can accomplish. If you were to create a realistic goal right now it would be based off your current skills, thoughts, and experience. How about creating a goal that exceeds your skills, what you thought possible, and something that exceeds anything you have ever experienced. This is how you take anything you are inspired by to another level. What you want to create is a goal that stretches you out of your comfort zone and ALMOST seems impossible now. Be unrealistic. Being realistic is boring and nothing great has ever been accomplished by setting realistic goals. Plus, are you really going to be inspired by something easily attainable? Test yourself. Once you are able to get more confidence that you can accomplish any goal you go after, you will know that no matter how unrealistic the goal seems from your current point of view, you can handle it. Any goal worth achieving is going to take commitment and any goal worth setting has to be something that seems unrealistic to you at the time. As you move towards that goal it will get more and more realistic. But don’t set goals that are going to be easily achieved but not get you anywhere close to where you want to be. What’s the point? Ever notice that the people with the most unrealistic seeming goals to you are the ones that seem to accomplish a lot or become most successful in that field that they pursue? It’s because they were not realistic in what they thought at the time they could accomplish. Even if they fell short, they still got further than if you were to set “realistic” goals. Of course it takes a lot of action put into it in order to get to those goals, but they placed their goals at a very high level.
When being realistic is actually a good thing
Now here is where being realistic is good. Knowing where you are at. This is very important too. If you can’t identify where you are at realistically, it’s hard to know where you need to go. This might kill your ego at first, but it’s the only way to be able to set goals. For me personally, I can’t say that I am a “pro blogger” at this point. This is only my third article. I can realistically say that I am a beginner at blogging and my writing skills are far from what they could be if I were to write 24/7. I think I am getting better every time I write, but if I am going to improve my writing to the point I would like I will need to write more and more articles. The point is, don’t overestimate yourself at anything or you are selling yourself short. Put your ego aside and really break down where you are at. Being honest with yourself is tough. A lot of times most people are fearful and use their ego as a way of blocking themselves from really going after a goal. They will attribute outside situations as to what blocked them from their goals. That’s the easy way out. The path of growth and path of excitement is knowing where you are at, and then moving towards where you want to go. Along the way you can reevaluate and go from there, but at every point it is vital that you pinpoint your current relation to the goal.
Here is a step by step process and as simple as it gets
– Figure out what you are inspired by
– Set a goal that will stretch you far out of your comfort zone, even if now it does not seem possible
– Be brutally honest with yourself as to where you are in comparison to where you want to go
– Pursue your goal
– On the way reevaluate what is working and what is not, and where you are at in relation to your goal.
So are you being realistic with where you currently are compared to where you want to be? Are you setting “unrealistic” goals that are going to stretch you out of your comfort zone? What are you inspired by? I talked about inspiration in a previous article, and I think the things in your life that you are inspired by will allow you to figure out where you are at and where you want to go more easily. Something you are not inspired by will be harder to focus on, which will make it tougher for you to even want to set any goals. Be as unrealistic as possible in your life. Anything is possible in this reality. Think big, because everything that becomes reality was first a thought.